Before you make any important choices in your life, do you stop and ask for help and consider how to make the best decisions?

Do you seek wise counsel before you make a decision about significant things?

Surely, you can all relate to these words,

“I pray and talk to God, but I’m still not sure what I should do. I can’t seem to make a good choice. I struggle to know what God would want me to do.”

Sometimes we might find ourselves stuck in a rut because we can’t decide what to do next. Margaret Thatcher once said, “Standing in the middle of the road is very dangerous; you get knocked down by the traffic from both sides.” There comes the point that you have to choose where to go or what to do. Therefore consider this advice when needing to make a decision:

  1. Let your Christian values be your guide. We make decisions all the time; some small, like what you want on your sandwich, and some big, like what house to buy, school to attend, person to date/marry. As a Christian, the big decisions need to be guided by what the Bible says and how your Christian values can influence your decision. It should sound like this, “How can I serve the Lord the very best if I do this or that?” Learn to consider every choice you make as an opportunity to honor God by considering your seen and unseen Christian values as the underpinning of all your decisions.
  2. Let your decisions be made alongside your voice of prayer. Let your voice be heard in the throne room of God as you make bid decisions in your life. Don’t just whisper a quick prayer right before you make a choice. Spend some time in prayer so that your heart is constantly pondering and talking to God about what you have to decide. Let the Holy spirit utter the words that you may struggle with, and let Him guide you to do what is right and honoring to Him. Prayer is the perfect place to meditate, consider, and voice our concerns to God. Let these words be said to our Father God, “God, I want to serve you, and I will always be faithful to you. No matter what I do, you are my top priority.”
  3. Let your friends weigh in. Your closest friends need to be people you go to church with. These people need to be your best friends. They are people that know you, know your values, and know your God. They want the best for you. Let them give you advice, and you sit back and listen. The book of Proverbs has these words:
    • Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory (Proverbs 11:14).
    • The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But a wise man is he who listens to counsel (Proverbs 12:15).
    • Through insolence comes nothing but strife, But wisdom is with those who receive counsel (Proverbs 13:10).
    • Without consultation, plans are frustrated, But with many counselors they succeed (Proverbs 15:22).
    • Listen to counsel and accept discipline, That you may be wise the rest of your days (Proverbs 19:20).
    • For by wise guidance you will wage war, And in abundance of counselors there is victory (Proverbs 24:6).

The next time you have a decision and choices to consider, stop for a moment and take wise counsel. Listen to your values, your God, and your friends. I hope this helps, and don’t forget I’m here to hear.

I love you,

Alex