Kira and I have have been married now for twenty-one years and for us, it’s hard to believe because we don’t think we should be old enough to have been married that long. But we are in our forties and we got married when I was twenty-two and she was twenty. To be honest, I think about that now and I think there is no way my daughter will get married that young. But I also know we knew exactly what we were doing. Now we did not know everything we know now but we knew what we wanted and we had good reasons to get married. 

Today, our culture sometimes looks down on marriage as if it’s an antiquated ritual. As if it is an outdated practice that one does not have to do to have love, relationships, sex, and families. But we disagree. Kira and I believe that there are plenty of reasons to get married and we can back them up with Bible. First, let’s just remember that in God’s eyes marriage is more than a formality, it is more than a public declaration of love and commitment. But for the sake of simplicity we want to share with you four good reasons to get married based on what we read and can identify in Genesis 2:18-25. 

  1. Marriage is the foundation of our society. Before societies and governments were established and before there was the church, there was marriage. God established it long before any other institution. So we believe that if you want a good society, government, schools, churches, and even families we have to see that marriage sets the stage for stability in all of those areas.
  2. Marriage is sacred bond between a man, woman, and God. That’s a big deal because if you want to make it to heaven having someone like your spouse to help you get there is a big plus. God made woman to be a helper to man. Sure she should help him with tasks, housework, feeding chickens, and planting and raising a garden but there’s more to it than that. As a matter of fact he should be helping her with whatever needs to be done, too. All the more, they should be helping each other with whatever needs to be done. But more than anything they need to be helping each other get to heaven. 
  3. Marriage is good for the individual person. Aside from the fact that you could potentially have a double income household and tax benefits. The connection you have with another person of the opposite sex is a God given benefit to marriage. It is proven statistically that married couples are more sexually satisfied than couples who just live together and have sex. It is also amazing to always have a best friend to talk to, connect with, and make decisions together for whatever might come up. We believe God designed it this way. 
  4. Marriage is the best way to raise kids. On average children who have a mom and dad who are married typically do better in school, have fewer behavior or mental problems, and are more likely to learn how to form their own healthy romantic relationships as adults. When God designed the marriage the way He did He made it so that the husband and wife would become good fathers and mothers. 

Marriage is a good thing. We believe it and we see it working in our own lives. These are a few of the reasons we wanted to get married and it’s been good for us. We know for certain doing it God’s way is the best way. 

If you are married think about the reasons you got married and share those with your spouse. If you are not married and want to be then make a list of reasons why you want to be and work towards those reasons with someone who might have the same reasons as you. 

For the Lord, 

Alex & Kira Mills